Remember when the only contact we had with people was in person.
Gross, I know, we were forced to meet up and actually have conversations while we looked each other in the eye or at least hear their voice on the phone. Then AOL came in and changed the game! Those words sound insane now. But what's actually crazy is the technological advances we have made since AOL, making it acceptable to laugh at anyone who still has an AOL email. I remember sitting in my parents family room with 20 different messeges open, just spitting game to every girl at school that would talk to me. That was the original text message, what you know about A/S/L?
OOOOOHH what about 3 way calling. If you were not careful, you could get set up and got. "Hey don't you just hate Jackie?" I'm not falling for that shit again. It was a simpler time, the interent was used for porn, creeps in chatrooms, resources for reports (no Wikipedia then) and attempting to convince a girl to touch my dick for the first time.
We have made leaps in technology since dialup, the first Skrillex. It is terrifying to imagine a life with out the Internet in my pocket. I am almost positive anyone born past 1995 would curl up into a ball and die, if they did not have Wi-Fi. Even my mom is starting to use emoji’s, when 4 years ago she couldn’t send a proper text. 😢😪 They grow up so fast.
I used the Internet to streamline the research; blogs, apps, websites. Anything to get information and track my journey. 20 years ago, when the food pyramid was the standard and processed foods were not bad for us.
If you wanted to track your calories then, we had to rely on ourselves to remember to write down calories every time we ate. That shit cray, considering you can literally scan the bar code to log your food intake, not just calories but the entire food label. There is no excuse not to be informed in this day and age. The problem is a saturation of information, that’s why it’s important to write down only the info that you find key to your success. (READ IT ALL THOUGH)
Even all the want in the world is not enough to lose weight. Emotion alone is as useful as a new born baby, it's cute, but doesn't do anything. Until that baby starts to learn, grow and develop their own personality. You can be the biggest, fastest, toughest football player on the team but if you don't understand how the game works, you are not making it on the field. Vise versa, if you are smart but physically not adequate to your competition, you are probably the coach.
KNOWLEDGE + EMOTION = ACTION
Life is a weird complex journey, like the roots said "things fall apart", sometimes you have to improvise. I am not a fan of articles that list steps to improve yourself; “10 things to do to make your life happier”, “These 4 Steps Make You A productivity Machine”, “How To Get More Energy do these 4 things backed by research”. I don't like people telling me what to do. Life is not a step by step path, it’s filled with twists and turns, Obstacles and barriers.
Hannibal from the A-Team, not Silence of the Lambs, loves it when a plan comes together because plans rarely go as expected. In other words "shit happens". Once I started to work out, I had to figure ways to keep working out. From day one, I was planning for bumps in the road, because situations arise and we become distracted from our overall “goals”.
THE NAME OF THE GAME IS PROGRESS,
no matter what you take away from these aritcles, remember that progress is what you must pay attention to. There were times my progress was halted or plateaued but as long as I was not moving backwards. Even if it is just one more step then you did the day before. We all respond differently to specific stimuli, some people need to be coddled and patted on the back for reasurence, some are motivated by doubt. These are just a few examples, you need to find what motivates you and run with it.
Choose the material you read like religious followers interpret their doctrines. Pick and choose what you like, not from just these articles, but everything you read. Read it all with a grain of salt, but an open mind. If something makes sense or peaks your interest, read it and analyze it in your own terms. I am as extrovert as they come, but I read articles on how to be an extrovert. It is usually to mock what I don't agree with (because obviously I must be the template for extroverts) and to see if there are any other techniques, I was not familiar with, that could be useful.
Emotion without knowledge is a teenage kid that thinks their in love. Problem is that teenagers are stupid and only have a sample size of about 50 people that they have picked from. Not to mention there is no such thing as love if you had to copy someone’s Life Science homework.
With need and know how, I created action, spawned growth. I am going to be rattleing of all the apps, websites, and books that I read and deciphered in this article. I will put a list of them at the bottom, use them like a breezy hoe and make those tricks work for you.
BEGINNING OF THE KNOWLEDGE
After I had jumped in to the idea of taking that first step, I began to read articles, devour books, watch videos on anything that was in the realm of my pursuit for success. That was one of the harder challenges for me. The physical stuff has always been a mind state, but reading just for the sake of reading was something I had to work at. Reading used to be a chore, forced to sit in a classroom of all your friends for SSR (Silent Sustained Reading), and not talk to them was torture. Look I love R.L. Stein as much as the next man, but I would rather be trying to flirt with Brittany Aguilar and Christina Ladera, who sat behind me in Mr. Boleman's 7th grade English class. "Chill out Mr. B, I'm just trying to talk to these ladies" he was not a fan of his nickname.
While doing research, I didn't know what I where to start. I started with flipping through articles on Stumbleupon , surprise surprise its an app! I just picked from the list of categories, ranging from weight loss to space exploration (I have like 46 different interests that I had checked). The idea was not to only read on categories dealing with weight, nutrition, sleep, alternative health. But was to grow my mind, with information about topics that interested me; cognitive science, counter culture, chaos/complexity (these are all actual categories). The app flips through articles from all those categories you have chosen. Even though I am not the biggest fan of list articles, these are the first that I started reading. I also chose articles caught my eye and saved it to a different folders. I would comb through the articles and write down specifics that pertained to what I needed. It helped immensely while figuring out the areas of life I wanted to focus on. I found articles that lead to websites that directed me to books that inspired my own rules for personal growth. Taking in as much data as possible, mixed with my emotional want, created an undeniable force that made me move.
The first article I read, was about retraining your brain, the author referred me to two books "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg and "The Willpower Instinct" by Kelly Mcgonigal. This isn't a research paper, and I have already done all of my research, so you're going to have to do this part on your own. I read everything having to do with habits, nutrition, sleep, the mind, the body, and fitness. I got myself a composition notebook and wrote down anything that related to my journey. I took all the information and created rules that I had to follow in order to achieve success. Again I will list all of these at the bottom with the links.
The beginning was all about creating habits, you can get more technical once you lay the ground work. I had a list of morning routines that I wanted to change into habits. The idea was to make it so running is like tying my shoe, it's just something that I do. I just started with a list of habits I would like to change or create for myself. The habits were easiest to build in the mornings, before my brain could recognize what I was doing. I set 45 day plan (no reason that I chose 45, completely random) of habits I wanted to start or wanted to stop. Every night at the end of the day I would make a check by the habit I was building. I wrote step by step, even the habits that I already had, so they all played off each other.
I tried to create a morning routine that would help each other, kind of like an assembly line. Waking up leads to water that leads to shoes that leads to stretching that leads to running. After the run/walk, I would eat breakfast, drink more water and read. Then to work. Habit Stacking is a subject you should read up on, it is all about building on small habits. Do a push up ever day, sooner or later, you'll do 2 and then 3 and so on.
I wrote down an obnoxious amount of lists, from how to get better sleep to food combinations that make super foods. I'm not even going to lie by telling you I constantly went back and looked at these lists, because I definitely didn't. Through all of the research, action, and emotions I had during the process, it was easy to feel overwhelmed with the plan. Which does happen, you feel overwhelmed and just shut down. So just try to keep these things in mind, first thing
DON’T SET GOALS build habits
Goals already set a precedence that we HAVE TO DO something. I am not sure about you, but I hate having to do things. Even if I want to do it, if it's scheduled, "I just don't wanna". Remember that there is no finish line. This is a life change, treat it like so. If we don’t get what we want, you don’t give up, you work harder. When you tie your shoe it is not a goal, it is a habit you developed as a child. You probably don’t remember tying your shoe this morning or locking your door, but you did.....UNLESS YOU DIDN'T. Make working out like deciding you are hungry, not like deciding where to eat!
Optimism kills dreams.
That's right motherfuckers, I don't want to hear, "that's a negative statement" either.
Being too optimistic about something and falling short of success, can crush us. I knew going in that it was not just going to take the arrogance or confidence, you have to be realistic. “Rome was not built in a day but it did fell in one” There were more bad days then good days, in the beginning, but if I ate right, excercised consistently and continued to progress, the plan would work.
If you want to be a certain weight by a certain time, too bad. This is not how it works, the difference between you and everyone else is how you handle them. That’s why I never set an actual “goal” to be done by. It’s setting yourself up for failure, the path to greatness is filled with struggles. If you know that it will be nothing but hard work and you still started, you can be confident in your resolve to stick to plan, bad days will only fuel the fire.
Progress Is The Only Reward You Deserve!
When it comes to cheat days or rewards, I would tell myself PROGRESS IS MY REWARD. I would not be satisfied in the 10 pounds I lost in a week, or even the 30 I lost in 2 months. I still am not satisfied. I am motivated by doubt and myself. The only reward you deserve is to be better. I created a bunch of random sayings to help motivate myself, along with others motivational quotes, yup you guessed it, wrote them all down.
The amount of apps and websites to help you loss weight is mass. I downloaded, tested, and deleted over a hundred different apps. Try out all of them, see which ones you like the most. I only used free apps, even paid apps have a free version that works just fine. Try out everything, sign up for news letters, FOLLOW PEOPLES BLOGS. Navigate your way through all the bullshit and create a plan for yourself, that you know you can follow. Tweak others advice so it forms to your strengths. GET YOUR RESEARCH ON. coming up on Looking Stupid is Awesome - MUSIC AND MOTIVATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
APPS USED WEBSITES USED
- StumbleUpon Johnny's List
- Pocket favorite and forget
- Map My Run Zen Habits
- My Fitness Pal Sleepy Time
- Lumosity 50 ways to get a job
- Habit Bull (habit tracker) /\ (really good for figuring out past slip ups)
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